近十年来, 无论城市还是乡村养狗的家庭越来越多, 有的一家儿竟然养三四条,甚至五六条的都有. 从袖珍小狗到半人高的狼犬, 从普通狗到名贵狗, 应有尽有.总之, 国外有的, 中国也有; 国外没有的, 中国也有.其实, 养狗本身并没错, 而且每个人都有权利决定养什么,养多少和在哪儿养. 在国外, 养狗是件极普通的事, 大多数养狗的人家儿都是孤独的老人, 或许儿女不在身旁; 或许无儿无女, 孤独一人. 狗成了这些老人的精神寄托, 生活的亲密伙伴. 通过遛狗还可以结识不少有着相同经历的其他老人.
而在中国, 养狗的目的和动机与国外截然不同, 有着天壤之别. 养狗不是为了解闷儿, 而是为了显耀. 养狗也不是老人们的专利, 年轻的家庭养狗的最多. 因为有钱才养狗, 而且越有钱, 狗的品种就越名贵!养狗不是只为自己,养狗是给别人看的.
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狗多了, 矛盾也就多了. 其实狗和矛盾是风马牛不相及的两个物体, 可就是这两个不相关的物体之间产生了矛盾并日益激化.
李姨家养了一条狗, 她经常去公园儿遛狗. 路上难免碰见邻居或熟人. 为了表示礼貌, 李姨每次见了熟人就冲着她的狗说: “这是张爷爷, 那是刘奶奶, 这叫王叔叔,那叫赵阿姨…” 李姨自认为很礼貌很热情, 可被介绍的人听了及不如耳: 我什么时候也和狗归于一类了? 我怎么就成了狗爷爷狗奶奶了呢?! 平常和睦相处的邻居就因为狗而顿生矛盾. 下次见了李姨饶着走, 以免再当狗爷爷或狗奶奶, 狗叔叔或狗阿姨.
李姨只是有类似问题的众多养狗人家儿之一, 比李姨问题更严重的还很多. 不少原本和睦的邻里从此反目成仇,不相往来, 甚至大打出手, 告上法庭.
Am I the same kind of dog?
In the last 10 years, there are more and more families owning dogs in China. Some families own even 5 or 6 dogs. Sizes from small to huge and kinds from normal to precious. Generally speaking, the kinds that other countries have, China has; the kinds that other countries don’t have, China has, too.
In fact, nothing wrong with owning dogs. Each one has the right to decide what and how many they own, as well as where. In Europe, owning dogs is very popular, most of families who own dogs are old lonely people. Most of them live alone. Dogs become their spiritual sustenance and good friends. By walking dogs they are able to meet other people who have similar experience.
In China, the purpose of owning a dog is totally different. Owning a dog is not to get rid of the loneliness, but to show off. Owning a dog is not only the patent of old people, the most of families who own dogs are young. They own dogs because they have money, the more money they have, the more precious kind of dogs they own! Owning a dog is not for oneself, but to show off!
Since there are more dogs, conflicts are getting bigger. Actually a dog and a conflict have nothing to do with each other; however, the two unrelated things cause problems that are escalated.
Family Li owns a dog and Ms. Li walks her dog regularly to the park where she unavoidably meets her neighbors. Every times she introduced her neighbors to her dog: This is grandpa Zhang, that is grandma Liu, and this is uncle Wang and that is aunt Zhao…” Ms. Li thought she is very polite to their neighbors, but people who she introduced to her dog were very unhappy about it: What? Since when have I belonged to the kind of dog? How did I become the dog’s grandpa or grandma? They tried to avoid meeting Ms. Li again as they are afraid of becoming dog’s grandpa or grandma, dog’s uncle or aunt again.
Ms. Li is one of many dog owners who have similar problems. Unluckily, their problems are even bigger and more serious. Neighbors, who were normally peaceful with each other, have broken up and no contact anymore, some even file charges in court.